As you are probably aware, there are countless free dating sites and mobile apps out there. But which one should you choose? We have weeded through hundreds of apps to bring you this list of the most popular and most user-friendly. These are the 25 that we have deemed the cream of the crop. Start downloading and enjoy!
- Match.com: one of the largest matchmaking sites on the Internet, Match.com has a large gay user base in addition to their straight users. Their website is mobile-friendly, and they have a free mobile app for Android as well. Visit Mobile Site | Download: Android
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- Chemistry.com: boasts a personality test that is designed to match you up with a compatible partner. For gays and straights alike, Chemistry.com has millions of members ready to meet up. The Chemistry.com site should load just fine on most mobile smartphones. Visit Site
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- Zoosk: one of the most popular mobile social networking dating platforms, Zoosk allows you to log in with your Facebook account and make dating a social networking experience. As you would expect, their website is mobile-friendly. They also have a free mobile app for Android and iOS and Facebook app. Visit Mobile Site | Download: Android | iOS
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- OutPersonals.com: features worldwide gay personals. Find gay men who seek other gay men and hook up online, over a video chat, or in person. Members have access to thousands of user profiles. OutPersonals is part of the FriendFinder network, so you can download the All FriendFinder mobile app to stay connected. Visit Mobile Site | Download: Android | iOS
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- SeniorPeopleMeet.com: if you’re looking for older gay men, look no further. SeniorPeopleMeet.com is also for straight singles, but there is a large user base of older (50+) gay men looking to date and hookup. The SeniorPeopleMeet.com website should work on most mobile smartphones. Visit Site
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- Grindr: probably the most popular free gay dating app on the market, Grindr is a location-based application for meeting gay, bi, and curious guys for dating and socializing. Grindr uses your cellular network or Wi-Fi signal to identify your physical location so you can chat, network, and mingle with guys in your neighborhood. Download: Android | iOS
- Jack’d: connect with over 3.5 million gay guys with this easy to use gay dating app. Features include push notification, match finder, multiple photos, extended profile filtering, favorites list and unlimited message exchanges. Language support in English, Chinese, Dutch, French, German, Italian, Japanese, Korean, Portuguese, Russian, Slovak, and Spanish. Download: Android | iOS
- Scruff: whether you are a bear, jock, or simple guy, Scruff connects you with guys in your neighborhood who want to meet. With Scruff, you can post your picture and profile details, browse photos of guys near you, rate your guys, track who is interested in you, and exchange text and picture messages. Download: Android | iOS | Windows
- Boyahoy: with boyahoy, you are able to instantly meet men in your backyard or around the world. This app connects you with millions of men looking to flirt, date, and fall in love. Use the app to find a party, make new friends, and meet people of all types and walks of life. Download: Android | iOS
- GuySpy: the most sophisticated all male location-based mobile social gay dating app, GuySpy allows users to find, meet, and chat with men faster and easier then other sites. Users can find gay men by location, view profiles and photos, upload and listen to voice greetings, and send and receive pictures. Download: Android | iOS.
- Bender: the gay dating app for Android, Bender uses a stylish user interface and is one of the easiest to use gay dating apps around. Features chat interface in multiple languages with built-in translation support, the ability to search outside your city, and a filter to narrow your search to find that perfect guy. Download: Andriod | iOs
- Hornet: the ultimate app for gay chatting and dating, Hornet features profiles with multiple pictures and an explore feature to find guys in cities all over the world. Sends push notifications when someone sends you a message, or use the notes feature to jot down interesting tidbits about your guy. Download: Android
- Mister: this location-based dating app is geared towards older men and hot guys. The mission of Mister is to create a healthy alternative to meat-market apps. This app encourages older gay men to never lie about their age and just be themselves. Download: Android | iOS
- Manhunt: the Manhunt gay dating app gets you chatting, flirting, and ogling over 4 million gay/bi/curious men almost instantaneously. With this app, you can quickly find guys nearby who want to chat, meet for coffee, or hook up. Billed as the world’s biggest gay hookup site, Manhunt can be your ticket to a hot night. Download: Android | iOS
- Growlr: this is the gay dating app for all you bears out there. With over 2 million members, Growlr is one of the largest bear dating apps around. You can view profiles, receive private messages, pictures, and voice memos. Also provides you with bear run and bear bar listings. Download: Android | iOS
- Plenty of Fish: join the over 55 million singles that exchange more than 200 million message a week on this free dating site! Plenty of Fish is the king of the free dating sites, and offers users free messaging, location-based dating, image uploading, and more. The Plenty of Fish Chemistry Test ensures your matches will connect with your wants and desires. Download: Android | iOS
- Adam4Adam: this gay dating app is increasingly becoming more and more popular in the gay community, and we can see why. Features push notifications, location-based meet ups, email, detailed search functionality, and so many more great things that are too much to list here! Download: Android | iOS
- Planet Romeo: this gay dating app takes a different approach from the others. After ten years offering gay dating services, the people at Planet Romeo understand your desires for using their site—to meet and hook up with hot guys. To help you get there, they let you publish your preferences, fetishes, and favorite activities. Download: Android | iOS
- Hot Gay Dating: this gay dating app is totally free and features an uncensored version that includes some hot pics. This app allows you to discover real gays who are looking for great guys like you. Features photos and the ability to find new contacts near you. Download: Android
- Cybermen: the gay chat and dating specialist, Cybermen is free, fast, and effective at hooking you up with a great guy. With Cybermen, you can live chat, send pictures, create and view photo albums, and locate users connected near you. By using the search option, you can sort by location, age, and area. Download: Android
- Hot Gay Men Causal Dating: with millions of members, it’s a good chance you can find your dream man using this app. Once you sign in for free, you’re instantly connected to men looking for guys just like you. Whether you connect via instant message, email, or video chat, you have lots of options. Download: Android
- Cupid’s Chat: connect with thousands of gay and lesbians all over the world with this free app. Chat with real people in real time. No fake profiles. The people behind this chat service understand that your privacy and safety are important to you and include spam filters and the ability to block users. Download: Android
- Girls Date Girls: this lesbian dating community includes millions of women looking for their true love. Gay, bi-sexual, and bi-curious are welcome. Girls of all ages are looking to chat, meet, flirt, fall in love, you name it—it’s happening at Girls Date Girls. Download: Android
- CoconutBoy: this 100% free app allows you to chat and upload pictures. It features real time notifications, various filtering options, an instant chat function, distance information, and photo animation. This app is 100% free. Download: Android
- Gay Radar: transform your phone into radar to find hot guys who want to date. Take a look at the map for local gays in your neighborhood. With this app, you can see all the gay people who are located within a set radius, follow them online, and send messages. Download: Android
Updated: March 26, 2013
The fight for marriage equality is progressing each day. This week, the Supreme Court is hearing arguments about the constitutionality of two gay marriage laws: the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and California’s Proposition 8. The hearings have the potential to help shape gay marriage equality laws for a long time to come. Follow all the news and more about marriage equality with this list of what we consider to be the top 100 blogs on the topic. Please note that these are listed in no particular order.
- The Feminist Librarian: blogger Anna has been blogging since 2007 and shares her thoughts on equality, love, the family, and the home.
- Rena Communications: features posts on same-sex weddings, legislation, and other topics on LGBT equality.
- Slowly Boiled Frog: blogger David Cary Hart shares his observations on LGBT issues, queer politics, and progressive ideas.
- Adrian Tippetts : a writer with a fresh new blog whose articles on gay rights issues have been seen in Pink News, Wing magazine, and the Guardian.
- O-blog-dee-o-blog-da : known for her international human rights work, editor Melanie Nathan publishes a comprehensive LGBT equality blog.
- Gay Wedding Blog : blogger Bernadette has been planning LGBT weddings since 2004. She shares her advice from her experiences working with hundreds of gay couples.
- The Republic of T : he’s black, vegetarian, Buddhist, liberal, and gay. This blogger comments on his life and home with his husband and two kids, his thoughts on gay marriage, and many more compelling topics.
- On Being a Gay Parent : blogger Brett Webb-Mitchell is a parent, father, and clergyperson in the Presbyterian Church and blogs about gay marriage and other LGBT issues.
- Meet Adam and Steve : bloggers Adam and Steve use their blog to bring attention to LGBT issues by sharing stories from LGBT individuals.
- Michael’s Gay Thought : this blogger shares with his readers his thoughts on gay politics, gay marriage, and gay lifestyle.
- Pam’s House Blend : blogger Pam Spaulding holds nothing back in exposing bigotry, anti-gay views, and gay rights.
- Asterisk : from the desk of blogger Matt, Asterisk provides readers with opinionated commentary on Christianity, politics, and equality.
- The Brad Blog : Brad Friedman blogs all about marriage equality in this thought-provoking look into the legal and political sides of marriage equality.
- Wake Up and Live : written by a former journalist turned massage therapist and minister, Wake Up and Live is all about LGBT, God, and finding equality.
- Signorile Show : Mike Signorlie is editor-at-large for Huffington Post Gay Voices and hosts his own radio show. He uses his blog to preview topics on the show and comment over politics, media, and popular culture.
- The Real Steve Gray : a New Zealand television presenter, event host, and actor blogs about gay equality and a ton of other interesting topics.
- Dorothy Surrenders : this blog’s motto “Why let the boys have all the fun” pretty much sums up this fun, hip blog about lesbian culture.
- Susie Bright’s Journal : an American writer on sexuality, Susie Bright blogs about LGBT issues, including love, sex, relationships, and equality.
Organizations, Campaigns, and Resources
- Full Marriage Equality : this blogger argues for marriage equality and believes that everyone has the right to share love, sex, residence, and marriage.
- Freedom to Marry : this grassroots organization’s blog is full of great resources and news from the campaign trial towards marriage equality.
- People for the American Way : this blog explores the legal fight towards marriage equality and analyzes DOMA.
- Gay Marriage Watch : features great news articles and other items all about gay marriage and marriage equality.
- Feminist Majority Foundation Blog : this blog discusses marriage equality in the context of religion, gender, and politics.
- Equality Matters : this blog updates readers on this grassroots organization’s campaign for full LGBT equality.
- Wedding Equality : this blog celebrates and promotes the freedom to marry. It features pictures from couples all around the world who have recently tied the knot.
- Human Rights Campaign : these bloggers are passionate about providing marriage equality resources on current protections, laws in your state, financial issues, and more.
- Think Progress : the folks at Think Progress go above and beyond in providing on the spot content for readers fighting for marriage equality.
- Gawker : the marriage equality section of the Gawker blog provides news and pointed commentary on the future of marriage equality.
- Right Wing Watch : this blog monitors and exposes the activities of the right-wing movement on the subject of marriage equality.
- Faces INEquality : this blog contains heart-felt posts from individuals struggling under unequal marriage laws in this country.
- Lambda Legal : the blog at Lambda Legal is concerned with recognizing the civil rights of lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders through litigation, education, and public policy work.
- Circle Surrogacy : this blog chronicles the legislative, cultural, and societal movements towards marriage equality.
- The Same Air : the bloggers here talk about rights, marriage, inequality, classism, and other hot topics.
- Gender & Sexuality Law Blog : the legal scholars at Colombia University Law School blog all about marriage equality and the rights of LGBT individuals.
- SCOTUS Blog: Same-Sex Marriage : your source for up-to-date news on marriage equality from America’s Supreme Court.
- Talk About Equality : a great little blog that keeps you informed about marriage equality and LGBT rights.
- The Equality Advocate : the blog of William and Mary Law School’s LGBT Equality Alliance, the Advocate focuses on LGBT equality, Prop 8, and other legal issues.
- Truth Wins Out : this non-profit organization that blogs about the “ex-gay” myth and religious extremism and turns information into action.
- Gay Blog Headlines : get the latest up to date news from the gay community. A great resource that will save you time searching for posts on marriage equality.
- Mombian : this blog is a terrific resource for lesbian moms. Contains posts on parenting and marriage equality.
- As I See It : journalist, public speaker, and social activist Jody May-Chang gives us her take on the latest on the fight for marriage and LGBT equality.
- Queer Look at the Bible : Thomas Waters takes another look at the bible from a gay point of view. Gay marriage is a prominent topic.
- 4 Real Equality Weddings : this great little blog shares the stories of same-sex couples who have tied the knot.
- Blabbeando : contains a variety of posts on gay topics, including equality, religion, culture, and morality.
- Queerty : this blog pleasures readers with a ton of great content on politics, culture, marriage, and more, all told from a gay perspective.
- Approaching the Aisle : this cute blog features some great stories of couples as they plan their gay wedding.
- Gay Patriot : this blog writes for the millions of patriotic gay and lesbian folks across the USA and stands for freedom, fairness, and equality.
- Sarah Brannen : children’s author and illustrator blogs about her latest book “Uncle Bobby’s Wedding”, about gay marriage.
- The Family Room Blog : this blog discusses equality for all families, and touches on LGBT adoption and foster care, relationships, immigration, and marriage.
- Immigration Equality Action Fund Blog : this blog keeps readers up to date on the latest efforts to ensure equality for all Americans.
- Equality Giving : this blog connects gay couples with ways they can help achieve marriage equality.
- Glaad Blog : one of the premier LGBT organizations in the US, Glaad blogs about working towards bringing culture-changing stories of LGBT people to the nation.
- National Gay and Lesbian Task Force : this blog chronicles the grassroots power of the LGBT community through the training of activists, equipping state and local organizations, and other campaigns to promote equality.
- People for the American Way : this organization is pledged to fight for equality for every American—no matter their sexual orientation.
- Think Progress : providing readers with expert analysis on the latest in LGBT equality, the Think Progress blog is a great resource to stay up to date on the issue.
- Advancing Transgender Equality : the bloggers here are passionate about ending discrimination and violence against transgender people and use the blog to educate and advocate.
- Forum for Equality : this blog is committed towards human rights and the establishment of a society free from discrimination.
- J&J Photography : photographer Jared is your source for gay wedding photography in the New York City area. He offers a discount to gay couples.
- The Gay Vegans : this blogger blogs about veganism, equality, compassion, activism, politics, spirituality, and gay life.
- Equal Love : this nationwide campaign for marriage equality in Australia provides readers with information on the latest news and comment.
- Two Birds Nest : this cute little blog shares with readers the love and joy of LGBT weddings through great photos and heartfelt stories.
- Common Ground Ceremonies : wedding officiant Rev Samora is your go-to officiant in the New York area for LGBT weddings.
- Pink News : Pink News is one of Europe’s largest gay news services and offers readers compelling opinions on gay life, marriage, and equality.
- Purple Union’s Gay Marriage Watch : this informative blog tracks the latest efforts to win equality for the LGBT community.
- Good As You : the bloggers at Good As You are charged with investigating any organization or personality to out discriminatory language or actions.
Specific Groups for Equality
- Mormons for Equality : this organization is composed of individuals associated with the Mormon faith and tradition who blog about the fight for marriage equality for LGBTQ individuals.
- Broadway Impact : an organization of theater artists and fans mobilized in support of marriage equality, Broadway Impact features a great blog with up-to-date marriage equality news.
- National Council of La Raza : this blog offers readers insight into the legal fight towards marriage equality, features up to date news on Supreme Court arguments and more.
- National Black Justice Coalition : the National Black Justice Coalition publishes an update to date blog on the latest news items concerning African American’s views on gay marriage.
- LGBT Immigration Equality Rights : read about the fight for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender immigrants at this compelling blog.
Location Specific Organizations
- Equality Maryland : a lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender civil rights organization, Equality Maryland features an informative equality blog that publishes articles concerning marriage equality.
- Oregon Marriage Equality : the blog of this Oregon gay marriage advocacy group features the voices of those in the community struggling for marriage equality.
- Marriage Equality Rhode Island : follow the campaign to achieve marriage equality in the Ocean State.
- Garden State Equality : with a mission to promote equality in New Jersey, Garden State Equality blogs about their advocacy and how you can get involved.
- Empire State Pride Agenda : these bloggers are committed to winning equality and justice for LGBT New Yorkers and their families.
- Vermont Freedom to Marry : this nonprofit’s blog contains resources for marriage equality in Vermont. Read about financial concerns, taxs, equality, and family.
- Freedom Ohio : this organization is fighting to end marriage discrimination in Ohio. Check this site for the latest news on this effort.
- Maine Equality Blog : contains news and updates from this Maine-based equality organization fighting for marriage equality.
- Equality North Carolina : read about this North Carolina organization’s fight for securing equal rights and justice for LGBT individuals.
- Equal Rights Washington : features inspiring stories and a podcast about marriage equality in Washington state.
- Equality Utah : the bloggers here are working towards a fair and just Utah, with equality rights for all LGBT Utahns and their families.
- Sensus Fidelium : keep up to date on the latest from Catholics for Marriage Equality of Minnesota. Posts advocate civil marriage for all, regardless of sexual orientation
- Equality California : this equality blog touches on marriage equality, with articles on Proposition 8 and other legislation affecting gay marriage.
- Equality Maine : since 1984, this organization has fought to secure full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people. Their blog shares success stories and other inspirational ideas.
- California Faith for Equality : the bloggers here help mobilize California’s faith communities to promote equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender individuals.
- Equality Florida : the blog at Equality Florida’s website contains great resources and news about the next steps towards marriage equality.
- On the Road to Equality : this thought provoking blog by Equality New Mexico updates readers on the campaign for marriage equality in that state.
- PFLAG Lubbock : readers of this blog keep in touch with the goings on of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) in Lubbock, TX.
- The Florida Domestic Partnership Law Blog : begun in 2008, this blog has been answering basic questions about legal options for gay and lesbian couples.
- Indiana Equality Action : a proud member of the Equality Federation, Indiana Equality Action blogs about the state’s fight towards marriage equality.
- Kentucky Equality Federation : the official blog of the Kentucky Equality Federation, this blog contains information on legislation, rally’s, and Kentucky-specific information on how to fight for LGBT rights.
- Bent Alaska : contains posts on Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), and other great marriage equality resources.
- End Bigotry in Venango County : this blog is geared towards promoting equality for all, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people in this Pennsylvania county.
- Gay South Florida : blogger Steve Rothaus provides readers with an entertaining, yet provactive look at gay marriage and other LGBT issues.
- Equality Arizona : blogs about lesbian, bisexual, and transgender equality. Their mission is to secure, protect, and defend the rights and welfare of LGBT people in Arizona.
- Equality South Dakota : the bloggers at Equality South Dakota are dedicated to achieving equality for all people. Readers include thousands of supports around the country.
- Alaskans Together For Equality : the blog of this political nonprofit located in Alaska advances civil equality for all Alaskans through grassroots organizing and advocacy.
- Basic Rights Oregon : this blog describes the efforts of this grassroots organization in the fight for marriage equality in Oregon.
- Governor Martin O’Malley : from the desk of the governor, this blog discusses his thoughts on marriage equality and civil unions.
- Australian Marriage Equality : check out what they’re working on Down Under with this informative blog.
Searching for a great blog on LBGT marriage, dating, or relationships? You’ve come to the right place. We’ve done all the heavy lifting for you and present what we believe to be the top 100 LBGT marriage, dating, and relationship blogs on the net. I’m sure we’ve left out several worthy blogs, so if you disagree with anything on the list or have a suggestion for us, please don’t hesitate to contact us. Also, please note that these are presented in no particular order; the numbering is included only for easier reading.
LBGT Marriage Blogs
- So You’re Engayged: the purpose of this blog is to connect LGBT couples with wedding vendors who actively support LGBT rights and freedoms, including same-sex marriage.
- Gay Marriage Watch: news blog that aggregates inspiring stories on gay marriage and marriage equality. Also a great resource for finding vendors for your wedding!
- CNN Belief Blog: Gay Marriage: addressing the hot topics in gay marriage today, CNN explores the progression towards equality, and the intersection of religion into gay marriage.
- Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage: written by a law professor who has been working on gay and lesbian family law issues for 35 years, this blog discusses the legal debate surrounding gay marriage.
- Freedom to Marry: the campaign to win marriage nationwide, Freedom to Marry is working hard to win the freedom to marry and end federal marriage discrimination.
- Gay Weddings Blog: written by Bernadette Coveney Smith, a LGBT wedding planner, this blog informs readers how to have beautiful, memorable same-sex weddings.
- The Gay Wedding Experience: recently married gay couple Brian and Tom share their story and include their thoughts on marriage equality and other thought-provoking topics.
- Huffington Post Gay Marriage Blog: this blog covers all topics gay marriage, including celebrity support for marriage equality, the benefits of same-sex marriage, and the growing acceptance of gay marriage.
- CNN Political Blog: Same Sex Marriage: CNN keeps you up to date on the latest activity in the political world surrounding same-sex marriage. Hear the opinions of politicians and review the progress of the legal battles.
- Gay Married Californian: this blog covers gay marriages issues in California, focusing on theology, children, genetics, and orientation. It also examines the data behind support for gay marriage.
- For Real: recently married Emily shares her tips concerning LGBT wedding planning. This site is perfect for those who “don’t fit in the bride/groom category.”
- On a Bicycle Built for Two: this blog provides inspirational stories about LGBT couples as they embark on their journey towards marriage. Blogger Tracey pays tribute to queer and lesbian weddings.
- The Best Gay Wedding Blog Ever: Kristen-Alexzander Griffith shares his experiences in planning a gay wedding after realizing that the net didn’t have a great selection of information on the topic.
- 14 Stories: blogger Bernadette Smith provides thoughtful advice for LGBT couples as they plan their weddings. 14 Stories is a firm devoted to creating legal LGBT weddings.
- Gay Weddings: this site has it all–blog, directory, and many other great features to make your wedding a success. The site is dedicated to providing great products and advice to same-sex couples.
- Equally Wed: a resource for brides, grooms, and brooms to come together to write about the fun of planning a wedding. Vendors of LBGT weddings also share their services.
- Ms. Blog: launched in 1972, Ms. magazine is known as one of the nation’s premier feminist publications. The Ms. Blog has been delighting readers since 2010 as a source for LGBT marriage reporting and commentary.
- Same Sex Tax Blog: blogger Patricia Cain is a Distinguished Professor of Law at Santa Clara Law School. The blog tracks the latest issues surrounding taxes and same sex couples.
- Gay Wedding Blog: Cristian Asher blogs about life, love, his marriage, and his thoughts on LGBT new items and debates. He often doesn’t hold back, which makes for a compelling read.
- Rainbow Wedding Network: the Rainbow Wedding Network was started in 2000 as the world’s first LGBT wedding gift registry. The blog reviews current issues in gay marriage.
- Gay Wedding Organizer: in this fun and informative blog, readers can search for wedding tips, inspiration, and advice on LGBT relationships. Articles on creative wedding ideas are sure to give you great ideas!
- Legal Out: this service provides affordable, easy-to-use online legal document preparation. The blog contains resources on gay marriage, GLBT news, and community links.
- Gay Forth and Multiply: so you’ve gotten married to the love of your life and now want a baby together. This blog talks all about donor sperm, IVF, and the magic of pregnancy.
- Gay Wedding Destinations: a blog all about gay weddings, where to go, what rings to buy, etc. Includes commentary on the political and social progressions towards marriage equality.
- Lesbian Wedding Blog: told as a photo collage, this blog features numerous ideas, stories, and fun ways to make your special day a memory that will last forever.
- Situation Room Same-Sex Marriage Blog: Wolf Blitzer keeps America informed on the latest happenings on the topic of same sex marriage. Includes video links.
Gay Dating Blogs
- The Guy Liner: this blog is all about a guy who joined an internet dating site. He blogs about talking to men online, arranging dates, and shares his experiences and drama dating men.
- Positively Dating: written by a mid 30′s HIV positive single gay man living in New York City, Positively Dating journals the dating experiences of an HIV positive person and seeks to set up a dialogue on the stigmas about being HIV positive.
- Key Changes: a gay dating site by blogger Nicolas, Key Changes shares the dating life of a young professional/writer/ex-Manhattanite. Posts cover such topics as failing in love with a stranger and gay bars.
- Gay Dating Guide Blog: this site has everything you need for tips, advice, stories, and more for meeting great men. Articles include “Top 5 Reasons WHy the Internet is the Best Place to Meet Gay Men” and “How to Get What You Want on a First Date.”
- Gay Dating Agency: the blog for this UK dating service mixes politics, dating tips, and dating advice to give readers helpful lessons in finding the right guy and falling in love.
- Guy Spy: the all male location-based social networking app for iPhone, Android, and web and mobile web, Guy Spy is your destination for fast, easy connections. The Guy Spy blog covers a multitude of articles that provide dating tips and advice.
- GayDar Blog: here, readers can get dating tips and tricks, and learn more about the GayDar service, a global gay dating service. The blog also covers topics on HIV/AIDS protection and prevention.
- The Gay Love Coach: this blog provides intimacy, couple, and dating advice for single and non-single gay men. Full of great articles on coming out, communication, and conflict resolution.
- Break the Illusion: YouTube fitness and love coach Davey Wavey blogs about spreading the message of love, acceptance, and the fun of gay dating. He is one of the leading voices for the gay and lesbian community.
- Accidental Bear: provides readers with queer news, art, culture, and discussion. The bloggers here comb the web looking for interesting gay dating topics and share them in a witty way.
- Life Solutions for Gay Men: licensed therapist, board certified life coach and author in New York City, Paul Novello shares his thoughts on empowering gay men to date with more confidence and success.
- Age Appropriate: an interactive blog for gay men, Age Appropriate covers sex, dating, pop culture, and nightlife. Posts are both fun and memorable. The site’s mission is to keep your hunt as enjoyable, entertaining, and enticing as the catch itself.
- Gay Life Coach: written for gay men who desire to take back control of their lives, Gay Life Coach features the “Ask Adam and Tony” advice column, as well as articles on how to meet the right guy and sustain a relationship.
- Confessions of a Boy Toy: blogger Oscar discusses travel escapades, exploring life, and finding that special someone in this hip, flowing blog. He describes the confessions as “confident, unapologetic, best foot forward.”
- Gay Everyday: Josh reaches out to readers in a beautiful, open way in this refreshing blog whose goal is to support gay Christian men. His posts share his dating experiences as a young gay man.
- From the Tumultuous Mind of Henry Perkins: blogger Henry Perkins opines about living and dating in Toronto as a early 30′s gay man. His posts describe the (sometimes agonizing) process in finding love.
- The Gayly Dose: if you have a question about love, sex, or dating, or really anything else, this blogger welcomes your questions! The Gayly Dose offers readers great advice on dating.
- Ty Curious: written by Ty, a self described “hot mess of masculinity and love redefining what it means to be a gay man”, Gay Agenda talks about life, love, and dating.
- Gay Banker: as the title suggests, this blog is written by a gay banker in London. Chalk full of dating tips and advice, the blog also explores the serious topics of sexuality and acceptance.
- Kissing Kamal: captures the real-life exploits of a single gay man dating in Washington, DC. Kamal gets down to the point of the first meeting and other bumps along the road of dating.
- Kinda Gay Blog: Sam shares his thoughts about coming out of the closet, dealing with depression, and learning how to be himself. Readers are inspired by his story and can learn from his experiences.
- Secret Blog of a Gay Guy: read dating stories and other tidbits on how to find that special someone. The author was once confused about his sexuality and uses this blog to describe his journey towards self-discovery.
- The Huffington Post Gay Dating Blog: bloggers share dating stories, advice for what to do and what not to do, and many other nuggets of common sense to help you find the love of your life.
- Charlie Ballard Blog: inspired by all those other posers thinking they know about gay dating, Charlie takes his blog to the next level, and give it to readers straight–but in a gay way.
- Buck Up, Princess: written by an older guy in his 50′s who prefers to date younger men, Buck Up, Princess shares experiences with aging and inter-generational dating.
- Finding Bliss: this gay matching service has a great little blog that dispenses relationship and dating advice, including posts on how to live from the heart and how to live happily ever after.
- Gay Times Blog: brought to you by Gay Times, the UK’s leading gay magazine, this blog delves right into the issues and questions you have. Do we still need gay clubs? Find out at the Gay Times Blog.
- Gay Dating Guide: this blog is full of helpful hints and tips from sex, to finding the right man, to sending flirty texts. The blog also is a great jumping resource for ebooks on gay dating.
- Wicked Gay Blog: a blogger shares his thoughts on dating, politics, love, life, and the experiences living as a gay man. Plus some hot pics!
Lesbian Dating Blogs
- Lesbian Matchmaker Blogs: read real dating stories that describe the most intimate details of finding new love and new relationships. This blog is also a space for heart-breaking tales and the compassion and support that follows.
- Doris Anderson: the founder and Executive Director of the Self-Identified Lesbian Community Center, Doris Anderson’s blog is used by her to reach out to lesbians nationwide to provide emotional and social support.
- When Sally Met Sally: lesbian dating blog When Sally Met Sally is a great little blog full of dating advice for the modern lesbian. Articles featured include helpful hints on opening up and avoiding the Mr. Right trap.
- Lesbian Dating and Relationships: this blog discusses the process of dating and creating healthy relationships. The blog is geared towards helping lesbians, both single and partnered.
- Lesbian Dating Project: the mission of this blog is to help provide a creative, productive, and economical way for lesbians to date and connect with each other.
- Just Shore Girls: Just Shore Girls was started by Ingrid and Ginger, two lesbians who used to live on the Jersey Shore. The site is focused on Jersey Shore lesbian life and contains some great articles on love and sex.
- Lesbian Serial Dater: blogger Zy Drew, the serial dater, talks about seeking the perfect woman, but never finding her. Readers follow Zy’s zany dating adventures as she looks for that special someone.
- L Date: a nice blog-style forum where lesbians looking for love come to chat, meet, and make new connections. Find your next sweetheart at L Date, a cute, no-frills blog.
- The Other Team: at The Other Team, readers can find help for lesbian and bisexual women looking for relationships and how to love themselves for who they really are.
- Assyrian Cupid: this site, which helps Assyrian’s connect, features a great blog on lesbian dating. Articles include how to meet lesbian singles, tips for lesbian moms, and much more.
- Gay Girl Net: this site features lesbian chat, lesbian dating advice, lesbian personal, and a very friendly lesbian community powered by a great blog. The site is very friendly, with a genuine community feel.
- Lesbian Life: this blog, in the author’s words is “about relationships, celebs, music, movies.” Basically Lesbian Life is about just finding your place in the world.
- The Lesbian Question: this is a blog for and by lesbians. It’s built to be a safe place for asking the questions you may have about lesbian dating, sex, and relationships.
- Glam Lesbian Dating Advice: from the gay love advice magazine, this lesbian dating blog offers readers the do’s and don’t of lesbian dating, including a great article on Murphy’s Law.
- Lesbian UK: a nice little blog all about lesbian dating in the UK. With articles on gay clubs, marriage, and a whole lot more. Readers enjoy the often funny, witty content.
- Lesbians Meet: this cute lesbian dating blog is all about discovering if you are a lesbian, meeting other lesbians, and having a great time doing it! This blog is a breeze to read.
- Lesbian Dating News: the latest news in the lesbian dating scene, complete with articles on the best dating sites, gay marriage, dating in the military, and much more.
LGBT Dating and Coaching Blogs
- Gay Girl Dating Coach: dating coach Mary Gorham Malia is a lesbian, who’s 50+, has raised two children, came out later in life, divorced, and shares lessons learned from many lesbian dating experiences.
- My Quality Connection: this blog must receive special recognition, because in its inaugural post, it discusses gay bulling, which is a topic that should be discussed in regards to all LGBT dating.
- Free Dating Blog: with articles on senior dating, lesbian dating, adult dating, chat lines, and much more, Free Dating Blog covers both gay and lesbian dating and relationships.
- Love Relationship Coaching: relationship coach Lyndra Hearn Antonson blogs about gay marriage, advice for couples, dating advice, and a bunch more great topics for improving your love life.
- Art of Relationship: Sarah Anand Anma has had years of experience researching, recording, and using a variety of techniques to improve her relationships. In her blog, she gives helpful advice learned after years of practice.
- It Gets Better Blog: the It Gets Better project is concerned with helping and supporting young LGBT individuals. Bloggers offer advice, counseling, and hope.
- LGBT Support Blog: your destination for support to date and fall in love with who you wish. Posts provide support and information concerning the LGBT community.
- Good as You: readers of Good as You come back again and again for LGBT news and commentary about politics, dating, love, sex, and other emotional topics.
- LGBT Supports: at this blog, young LGBT individuals can browse heartfelt stories about dating, living as an LGBT, and the wider issues surrounding progress towards equality.
Gay Love and Life Coaching
- Gay Twogether: a blog for relevant news, interesting articles, great pictures and other cool stuff for and about gay relationships. This site is geared to help you improve your relationship.
- Holy Grasshopper: relationship coach Tom Ellis offers thoughtful advice about living life to the fullest, improving your relationships, and connecting with those who love you.
- Anthony Quaglieri: in this up and coming blog, Anthony Quaglieri shares his thoughts on love and relationships. He is skilled in psychodynamic, psychodrama and group therapy, couples and family therapy, and sexual counseling.
- Joe Kort: relationship expert Joe Kort provides readers a variety of articles on love and relationships. These topics include addiction, anger management, body image, and coming out.
- Rick Clemons, the Coming Out Coach: in this thought-provoking blog, gay relationship expert Rick Clemons talks about working through your relationships and how to come out the right way.
- Paul Novello: licensed therapist, board certified life coach and author in New York City, Paul Novello blogs about gay relationships, and gives readers tips for making them healthy and strong.
- Dave Allen: relationship coach Dave Allen teaches you how to make the most out of your relationships, and offers advice on living a full, passionate life.
- Mark Reinert: love and life coach Mark Reinert speaks of overcoming fears and doubts to live an exciting full life, full of love. His posting about escaping loneliness and finding belonging is especially good.
- Michael Cohen: relationship expert Michael Cohen imparts the healthy and positive results from mediation and healthy relationships and gives advice on how your relationships can grow through the seasons.
- Christian Perez: Mr. Perez offers relationship coaching, life coaching, and counseling through this friendly, easy-reading blog. He includes topics on gay dating and how to improve your life’s outlook.
- Gerry Fisher: love and relationship coach Gerry Fisher specializes in coming out issues and defining who are you as an individual.
- Real Flexx: blog that gets right down to it and talks about safe gay sex, condoms, and trends in the gay dating scene. Plus read about tips for winning the dating game.
- My Out Spirt: this blog focuses on the spirituality that comes from a loving, gay relationship. The blog includes beautiful poetry and other enlightening posts about gay relationships.
Lesbian Love and Life Coaching
- Little Gay Book: at the site of Dr. Frankie, lesbian dating expert, lesbians can peruse a great blog full of dating tips and advice. Memorable posts discuss jealousy, grief, and shyness.
- The Lesbian Guru: let lesbian relationship expert Christine guide you on how to avoid lesbian dating pitfalls, how to meet that special someone, and how to avoid drama over the holidays.
- A Date Coach: the bloggers at A Date Coach focus mainly on lesbian dating post divorce. Readers can connect with their own struggles through the stories of others in similar situations.
- Lesbian Date Coach: this blog offers articles on how to get a girl, not through simply getting out at meeting people, but by first getting a life.
- Celeste and Danielle: relationship experts Celeste and Danielle offer lesbian dating advice through their coaching services and blog. They explore understanding and expressing erotic desires to strengthening communication.
- Your Daily Lesbian Moment: your daily dose of lesbian art, dating, politics, social media, sex, and love! This blog seems to have it all–a fun, kinda crazy melody of all things lesbian.
No matter who you are or what your sexual preference may be, introducing a new relationship to your parents is a big deal and can be very scary for both you and your partner. Of course you want to share your love life with those closest to you…so whether your family is accepting of your lifestyle choices or they have their doubts or misconceptions, there are ways to ensure a smooth process for everyone. To avoid an uneasy situation, check out the following tips:
Tip #1: Make sure your partner is ready. If you feel that your relationship is in a healthy place where meeting the family is the next step, sit down and discuss the idea with your partner to ensure that you are both on the same page. Watch for warning signs such as hesitation or resistance, which could indicate that he may not be quite ready for such a big step. If he is good with the idea and the potential outcome of taking things to this level, then all is a go.
Tip #2: Give your family advanced notice. If you have already come out to your family you should be able to openly discuss the idea of introducing them to your boyfriend. Like the conversation with your partner, make sure you keep an eye out for red flags that may indicate uneasy feelings. Even if they aren’t completely comfortable, it is crucial to explain that your partner is a significant part of your life. Let your family know how much it would mean to you for them to get to know him.
If your family does not accept your sexual preference or is even unaware—brace yourself for the possibility of a negative reaction. If you are not out, it might not be a good idea to bring your new guy home. Consider how uncomfortable the two of you would be trying to hide your relationship. Also keep in mind that there is the chance of your family finding out while you are visiting. If they do, are you prepared for that?
Tip #3: Allow time for everyone to acclimate. If all works out for the big meet and greet, it may take time for everyone to get comfortable with one another. That is to be expected in any relationship, so just remember to be yourself and act naturally. A good way to minimize any uneasy feelings is to share family stories or pastimes. Also keep in mind that your boyfriend may be experiencing feelings of nervousness or isolation, so be sure to include him in conversation and to share stories about your relationship as well. Let him know that his comfort is important to you and hopefully before long, everyone will be cracking jokes together like old friends.
Tip #4: Don’t force it. If things aren’t going as you planned, try not to force it. The relationship you have with your family is something that should be worked out between you and them alone—do not involve your partner for it will only complicate things further. You may find that it’s best to bow out of the situation if it’s uncomfortable and try again at another time.
Tip #5: Thank your family. If introducing your new relationship to your loved ones couldn’t have gone better, be sure to thank your family for their acceptance and generosity. When you let them know that you recognize and appreciate any strides they’ve made in this highly emotional experience, it will not only strengthen the bond you share, but it will also help to integrate two of the most important parts of your life.
If you’re looking for a relationship and the gay bar scene has provided you with some less than desirable candidates, maybe you’ve toyed with the idea of searching for a match online. However, with tons of free and paid websites available at the click of a mouse, it can be an overwhelming process that may leave you wondering where to begin.
Before you dish out the dough or decide to save your pennies for a special first date, start off by taking a firm assessment of your personality traits and outline what it is that you want. By defining your dating objectives along with studying up on the differences between free and paid sites, you will be able to pick the dating site that will cater to your individual needs. Read on to learn some tips about the different kinds of dating sites out there.
Free Dating Sites. For the frugal-minded or for those looking to give the online and speed dating world a test drive, these sites are a great option. There are some downsides, but as long as you do your research, the chance for finding quality single guys and having a positive experience are in your favor.
- Because these sites are free, there isn’t much hassle that comes along with them—you just create a profile and you’re ready to mingle.
- If you are unsatisfied and don’t find that special someone, you haven’t wasted any money.
- Great for the new online dater – just getting their feet wet.
- Perfect for those trying to save a little cash.
- Since there is no risk of losing money and anyone can just sign up, you may find that you run into a lot of people who are on the sketchier end of the spectrum—it may take some weeding through bad profiles before finding that diamond in the rough.
- You have the risk of running into many fake profiles. These may be set up by the site to populate their database, by people who are bored and want to mess with the emotions of others, or by scammers trying to gain access to your bank account.
- Free internet dating sites do not often offer a high level of support in terms of customer service.
- By using these sites, you can expect to receive a lot of spam emails that are not helpful in your search for a life partner or relationship companion.
Paid Dating Sites. In general, paid dating sites are known to be your best bet if you’re looking for something more serious than just a hook up. These sites require you to pay a membership fee to use their services and they offer a variety of subscriptions for basic to premium packages at all different rates.
- Throughout the online dating community, there is a widespread belief that people who go through the trouble of paying for something are usually more dedicated and committed to it.
- Compared to free sites, paid membership dating sites seem to have deeper levels of compatibility testing. You won’t just be matched with eight people because they have the same basic interests and live near you.
- There are generally a higher number of real profiles that tend to be more in depth.
- Paid sites usually yield higher number of quality search results.
- When you join paid sites, you can trust that you will get the support and customer service that you deserve.
- Many paid sites will offer a free trial period or guarantee free months if you haven’t found a match in a certain amount of time—you can utilize these services to see if you are interested in paying for a membership with a particular company.
- You might be disappointed if you’ve paid and haven’t found anyone.
- Your expectations are higher, creating more pressure to find someone because you’ve invested not only your time, but your money.
- There are still scammers on paid dating sites—just because they’ve swiped a credit card doesn’t mean that they’re quality human beings.
- Some paid dating sites make you jump through hoops if you wish to cancel your membership.
Choosing between a free and paid online dating service is a personal preference. There are positives and negatives to both…but whichever path you decide to take, just make sure you are safe and enjoy the experience!
We’ve all had those less than satisfying dating situations that leave you wondering if you’re better off avoiding the process altogether and living out a single existence. To avoid any more unsure feelings and the chance of becoming soul-crushingly good at cooking for one, ask yourself the following questions to help determine whether or not you should invest any more time into a guy after a first date:
#1: Do you feel anticipation? As you prepare for a date with a guy who has sparked your interest, there should be a high level of excitement and curiosity as you decide where to go, what you’re going to wear, and thinking about what may flourish from your adventure. There will probably be an even greater thrill if you’re meeting up with a guy who you’ve been communicating with over the internet for weeks or months.
Bad sign: If you are less than excited or are experiencing feelings of indifference toward going on your first date with a particular guy, this might indicate that you are not that into him, or are emotionally unavailable to the general idea of dating.
#2: Is the conversation flowing? Typically on a date with a new guy, the first few minutes are usually filled with ice-breakers and a little bit of nervousness from both parties. If, however, there is a real connection between you and your guy the butterflies should fade and you should begin to feel comfortable in his company. The initial small talk will allow to you share commonalities, interests and your sense of humor. If the chemistry is right you will find yourself engaged in good conversation that should calm your initial nerves—this is when the conversation will open up for you to easily express yourself on a deeper level.
Bad sign: If the conversation seems anything but natural and you feel forced to keep it going the entire date, you might not be a match for each other. Communication is also definitely lacking if you feel like he is grilling you as if you were on a job interview.
#3: Is there curiosity? When there is a mutual attraction and a genuine desire to pursue more than just one date, both of you should be eager to learn as much as you can about the other. Every bit of information you find out about your new guy should intrigue you to uncover more. When you do, your intuition along with his body language will be able to cue you in to whether or not the two of you are compatible.
Bad sign: If your date seems disinterested, unengaged in the conversation and is exhibiting negative body language such as sitting with his arms crossed, don’t take it personally…on to the next!
#4: How does the date end? The conclusion of the first date is going to tell you a lot about how the future bodes. Are you both having such a great time that he seems relaxed and even a bit reluctant to end the evening? Can you feel a bit of sexual chemistry or tension when it’s time to say farewell? Do you feel excitement about the possibility of seeing him again? By the end of your date, you should both feel the same level of interest that you did before your date, if not more!
Bad sign: If your date is speeding things up and making excuses as to why the night needs to come to an end, there is a possibility that you may not be seeing him again.
#5: Is there a follow –up? This step is crucial to the early stages of a developing relationship. If the date went well, you should expect to hear from him within three days after your outing. If there is interest, an invitation for a second date will soon follow.
Bad sign: If you don’t hear from him shortly after your first date, you may not want to hold your breath. Granted, people are busy with work, school and other life commitments, but in this day in age with technology at our fingertips allowing for easier communication, there is no reason why a short text, email or phone call is too much to ask from your date.
With a slew of gay dating sites out there, finding your mister right is a whole lot easier than it used to be. But along with the ease and convenience provided by the internet also comes some issues revolving around safety. So before venturing out into the world of online dating, be sure you take a few minutes and educate yourself on a few simple steps to playing it safe.
Safeguard your privacy.
When filling out your online dating profile or immersing yourself in deep conversation with a guy online, never give out any of your personal information. If he’s a good guy and he’s talking to you for the right reasons, there is no need for him to have your last name, phone number, home address, place of business or any other identifying info.
Take it slow.
As excited as you might be to meet your potential match, be sure that you don’t rush in. There are hundreds of dating sites out there with thousands of people joining every day. With that being said, you never know who it is exactly you are communicating with. Many gay dating sites offer a chat room; this is a great tool in getting to know a guy to see if he is even compatible with you before leaping into a face to face meeting.
Watch for inconsistencies.
While chatting up your potential new man, really watch out and monitor the way in which he corresponds with you. If there are any inconsistencies in his stories or his online behavior, mark that as a red flag—this might not be someone who you want to meet.
Ask for a pic.
You’re already on the look-out for anything suspicious, and if he doesn’t have an online dating profile picture or cannot provide you with one—mark this as another red flag! It is important you that you get a current picture of the person you could eventually meet—if you don’t receive a photo, there should be no date.
Go on a safe first date.
From what you’ve been able to gather so far, you’ve established that your online prospect seems like a legitimate human being and you’re ready to take the next step. It’s time for your first date. Keep in mind the following tips and all should go smoothly:
- Use your own transportation
- Meet in a crowded, public place
- Be observant and remain aware of your surroundings
- Do not exceed more than two alcoholic beverages
- Never leave personal property unattended
- Trust your instincts
- Never feel ashamed or embarrassed by taking safety precautions
You’ve all seen him. The gorgeous man who’s sitting alone, sending all of the wrong signals with his legs crossed, arms folded and a sour look on his face. If you, like many singles, find yourself complaining that you’re never approached when you are out socializing, your bad body language may be to blame. Fellow singles are constantly sizing up their chances of getting a positive response out of you. If it looks like you’re going to shoot him down within seconds, he’ll move on and work his way over to the man who is sending the body language that makes him more attractive. Take notes and make the right moves next time you want to attract attention.
- Lean in. This is one you might do naturally if you’re interested in someone. If the person isn’t taking a hint, lean in a little closer, especially when you don’t have to. If you’re doing the bar scene, most are so loud and you have to do this anyway, so smile and gently lean in to your potential companion when listening to him. If there’s an awkward head bump, that’s OK. It’s little moments like these where people connect and realize that even with awkward moments, there may be something worth exploring.
- Cross your legs towards the person. Crossed legs isn’t an automatic no-no, as long as your body is turned in and your legs are crossed towards the person you’re trying to connect with. Think of it as creating a safe space for you and your companion. Leaning and slanting your body so you’re enveloping the person in your conversation can work, as long as it isn’t overbearing. You never want to invade a person’s space, but if you’re picking up on vibes that say he is interested in you, that should be the green light to cross your legs inwards and create a confident persona that you’re here to get to know the person.
- Smile. Who doesn’t look better when they smile? Put on your best smile when you’re out and about. This creates an inviting look that will make anyone who’s fancying you possibly approach you. You don’t want to go out with a frigid look on your face or that you’re too good to be there. If you go out with the intention of attracting someone or just meeting new people, it helps to smile. If you’re too tired to go out, skip out and wait until you’re in the mood to put your best foot forward and give a warm smile to those around you.
- Lock eyes. If you spot a guy you’re attracted to, don’t be afraid to catch his or her eye and lock eyes with them for a few seconds. Anything beyond four seconds can come off as a bit creepy, so just give the person a glance and lock eyes. Don’t do this over and over again. One or two times should be all it takes for the person to make a connection that you’re interested. Don’t expect this locking of the eyes to garner a date invitation from your potential companion. You still may be the one who has to walk over and strike up a conversation, but at least with the locked eyes move under your belt, the person will know what’s coming.
- Let your hand linger. If you put your hand on someone you’re interested in, let it stay there for an extra second or two. If you put your hand on a guy’s arm or leg, let it sit there for a bit to give him the message that you’re interested and you’re confident, or if a guy is passing in front of you and you help him get through the crowd, let your hand linger on him for an extra second. This won’t come off as invading someone’s personal space unless your hand is in an off-limits spot. The shoulders, arms, upper legs, and the back are all a-OK.
- Stand up straight. If you stand up straight, you look leaner, if you look leaner, you look more attractive. Yes it’s a shallow world we live in, but if you’re looking to attract someone form the get-go, it’s important to carry yourself well. This means watching your posture whether you’re walking across a room or sitting at the bar. Avoid hunching over or hiding your height if you’re tall. There’s nothing more attractive than confidence and walking and siting up straight enhance a confident persona.
- Take the lead. Go take the lead if a guy is sending signals he’s into you. If you’re walking through a crowd, take the lead and hold his hand or shoulder as you make your way through the masses. You don’t have to interlock fingers with your hand holding, simply holding his wrist will show you’re interested and aren’t afraid to take action. Guys love feeling liked and getting a major sign you’re interested before they go in for the kill and ask you out.
- Don’t be afraid to dance. This one’s not for everybody, but if you’re the first to get up and dance, it shows you’re confident and always ready to have fun. This is important in making yourself well-liked and attractive to potential dates. If you’re out and music is playing and someone else starts dancing, if you’re one of the first to join in, it shows you have a carefree attitude. This is attractive to most people, even if they aren’t the type who love the spotlight.
So smile, walk tall and don’t be afraid to get your groove on when you’re out looking for a companion. If someone has their eye on you, doing a few of these things will make your attractive quotient go through the roof. There’s nothing wrong with playing coy from time to time, but if you’re in a crowded place or attempting to court someone who needs a push, these tips will help you hold up a proverbial sign that you’re ready for a date.
The top five gay dating sites have many things in common. They allow users to be totally anonymous to protect their safety. For gay men, the world of online dating is a fairly regular venture. Many gay men interact on gay dating sites before meeting in real life. Beyond dating, these sites are often a great place to meet friends with similar interests. While all gay dating sites promote the idea of finding a love match, many are geared towards being a social networking site where you can find singles in your area. These singles may be looking for love, but they also may be looking for a workout buddy or someone to check out the latest club.
Without further ado, here are the sites that we consider to be the top 5 best gay dating sites on the Internet today:
- Match.com: Not just for gays, Match.com is usually regarded as the most popular matchmaking site on the Web, with millions of active members, including over one million gay men and women.
- Zoosk: While not exclusively a gay dating site, Zoosk is unique in that it integrates with other social networks. It has a very popular Facebook app that is used by over 5 million people.
- Chemistry.com: Another site that is not exclusively gay, but has a very large user base, Chemistry.com features a popular free personality test that matches you with other singles, whether gay or straight — you decide.
- OutPersonals: An exclusively gay site, OutPersonals boasts over 1.2 million gay members, and signing up is free.
- Gay.com: Gay.com caters exclusively to the LGBT community, and includes a lifestyle blog, chat, and personals section.
Dating online is the norm for many gay people. It is widely accepted in the gay community to meet folks online, whether you’re looking for a friend or a long term relationship. The key to attracting matches is to make your profile stand out in the sea of online dating hopefuls. You should never lie in your profile, but you definitely want to spice it up so you stand out and give people the green light to move forward and contact you.
1. Keep it Light, This Isn’t Time To Spill Your Guts
There’s nothing that says you have to put everything out there from the get-go. It’s enough to include your interests and what type of relationships you’re after. Beyond this, you can wander into strange territory, so do your best to keep it light in your profile. You don’t want to be too forward, but you should put it out there as far as what you’re looking for.
2. Be Honest & Clear About What You Want
Designate whether you’re looking for a quick hookup, a friendship or a long term relationship. Most gay people want this to be up front since they’re accustomed to dating online. It’s important to include what you’re looking for and your age in your profile. These things are integral for the online dating experience in the gay community. You should refrain from getting too personal and when it comes to your age, never lie. Who knows when you will find a connection. You don’t want to lie about your age and end up meeting the love of your life, so be honest in all aspects of your profile.
3. You Aren’t That Funny… So Stop it.
Refrain from trying to be the class clown. We get it. You want to add a little personality to your online dating profile. You don’t want to do this by being sarcastic or displaying your self-deprecating humor. As attractive as this is for comedians (it isn’t), it seldom translates online. You’ll only end up being viewed as negative or a Debbie Downer, and who wants to go on a date with someone like that? Instead, be genuine with on your online dating profile. There’s no reason to be cheesy, but it doesn’t hurt to be authentic in your profile. Talk about your interests and the type of relationship you’re after by participating on the site.
Bonus: 4. Know Your Geographic Limits, And Stick To Them
It’s also important to say how far you’re willing to travel for meeting someone. If you’re in the suburbs, you may not want to trek it into the city to meet someone if that’s where they live. If the purpose of being on the gay dating site is to find a long term relationship, you may be a bit more lenient. If you’re looking for a quick hookup, you probably don’t want to drive to the other side of town and battle traffic just to find out if you have chemistry with a stranger. Saying how far you’re willing to go is a basic essential of the gay dating profile, so be honest with yourself about where you want to go to make a match.